Important love advice
Love always trusts
Getting him back… Its not over
Good flirting skills are all about technique!
Simply Being Happy
Self-Help: You Are Not Your Personality
Finding Happiness
Does Relationship Breakups Stink?
citizen renegade readers collective (alphas, betas, females), i want to hear your swap stories… i was casually seeing a chick since feb, nothing serious & over last month i’ve been cooling it down… but over the w/e met her friend (not a best friend), she’s unbelievably hot, we clicked & now i want her. i want to do a swap.
is this possible given the short turnaround? whats the best way to get around the “mates before dates” mindset? whats the best way forward???
on June 7, 2010 at 10:58 amPolymath
chuck,
Break up with girl 1, see girl 2 secretly for 1 month, then you can see girl 2 openly without girl 1 scratching her eyes out. Way to do to this: first, tell girl 2 “I’d like to get together with you but it’s not fair to girl 1. I’m going to break up with her, but I don’t want her to hate you. What do you think we should do?”
Normally you would take the lead in getting a relationship off the ground, but here you want to engage girl 2′s scheming instincts. If she thinks it’s her idea to see you secretly for a while, she gets more thrills, not to mention the logistical advantages because your initial dates will be private rather than public.
Love always trusts
Getting him back… Its not over
Good flirting skills are all about technique!
Simply Being Happy
Self-Help: You Are Not Your Personality
Finding Happiness
Does Relationship Breakups Stink?
citizen renegade readers collective (alphas, betas, females), i want to hear your swap stories… i was casually seeing a chick since feb, nothing serious & over last month i’ve been cooling it down… but over the w/e met her friend (not a best friend), she’s unbelievably hot, we clicked & now i want her. i want to do a swap.
is this possible given the short turnaround? whats the best way to get around the “mates before dates” mindset? whats the best way forward???
on June 7, 2010 at 10:58 amPolymath
chuck,
Break up with girl 1, see girl 2 secretly for 1 month, then you can see girl 2 openly without girl 1 scratching her eyes out. Way to do to this: first, tell girl 2 “I’d like to get together with you but it’s not fair to girl 1. I’m going to break up with her, but I don’t want her to hate you. What do you think we should do?”
Normally you would take the lead in getting a relationship off the ground, but here you want to engage girl 2′s scheming instincts. If she thinks it’s her idea to see you secretly for a while, she gets more thrills, not to mention the logistical advantages because your initial dates will be private rather than public.