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  • “…but avoiding “commitment” until you know it’s guaranteed to be good isn’t commitment at all. Commitment has as a subtext an element of accepting imperfection, that you’re going to stay in when the going gets tough, and that you are making a decision with imperfect information. It’s a logical incongruence to commit to a sure thing. You don’t have to be “committed” to something you’ve engineered to not get tough, which is what these women are looking for (and as we know, is nigh impossible – there’s just no such thing as a sure thing in relationships.)
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I think we’re saying the same thing – young women don’t want to stick their necks out, they want the man to absord all the risk so they can enjoy the profits. Dalrock writes ad nauseum about this; married women complain they are “trapped,” and by trapped, they mean committed.

The basic trend I’ve noticed in young women in my cohort is they are paralytically afraid of being “boxed in.” Girls who would gladly escalate, even screw, guys in a semi-drunken bar crawl or house party get really skittish when that escalation is contextualized by a one-on-one date. Several dude bloggers have written about this lately – they recommend against dating not because PUAs say it’s for chumps, but because it’s an ineffective way of acquiring female companionship, you’re better off meeting for a quick drink and pushing for a bang. It’s sad, obviously, esp for a guy like me who really values date experiences and doesn’t feel like he should have to schmooze his way into her pants before she’ll let him take her to his favorite dive or go minigolfing (isn’t that a weird reversal of dating logistics?)